|Me and my son last month in Nawlins restaurant, Yokosuka.|
Long story short, my son was diagnosed with “low level, high-functioning autism” three years ago, aged 15. He only scored 15 out of 18 out of the bullet list below because he was not hyperactive. In the past, you could have said about him:
- Fails to give close attention to details or makes careless mistakes in schoolwork, work, or other activities.
- Has difficulty sustaining attention in tasks or play activities.
- Does not seem to listen when spoken to directly.
- Does not follow through on instructions and fails to finish schoolwork, chores, or duties in the workplace (not due to oppositional behavior or failure to understand instructions).
- Has difficulty organizing tasks and activities.
- Avoids, dislikes, or is reluctant to engage in tasks that require sustained mental effort (such as schoolwork or homework).
- Loses things necessary for tasks or activities (e.g., toys, school assignments, pencils, books, or tools).
- Easily distracted by extraneous stimuli.
- Forgetful in daily activities.
- Fidgets with hands or feet or squirms in seat.
- Leaves seat in classroom or in other situations in which remaining seated is expected.
- Runs about or climbs excessively in situations in which it is inappropriate (in adolescents or adults, may be limited to subjective feelings of restlessness).
- Has difficulty playing or engaging in leisure activities quietly.
- Appears “on the go” or acts as if “driven by a motor.”
- Talks excessively.
- Blurts out the answers before the questions have been completed.
- Has difficulty awaiting turn.
- Interrupts or intrudes on others (e.g., butts into conversations or games).
(Source: Additude website)
As a matter of fact, ADHD is an umbrella term for “low level, high-functioning autism”. I myself score 18 out of 18 on the checklist because I am hyperactive.
People think that being diagnosed with ADHD is some kind of hideous curse that will turn their lives upside down and / or give them an excuse to behave like a jerk-off on meds. For example, I used to belong to a Facebook group that supported ADHD people (I don’t like using the word sufferer, as I don’t think ADHD is a disability). What really turned me off that community was it’s negativity and defeatism. People endlessly posted pictures of their messy houses and litanies of how badly they were doing with the relationships at work, despite being on a higher dose of Ritalin than ever before.
If you’ve read my post about how I beat Crohn’s disease, you will know that I’m not the kind of woman to accept stuff just because a doctor tells it to me. I refused to have my son medicated nor to medicate myself. Medication is not a long-term solution. In fact, it’s not any kind of solution because ADHD is not a problem, it’s a super-power. A list of people who we now think most probably had or currently have the ADHD gene switched on, confirms this:
- Sir Richard Branson
- Walt Disney
- Michael Phelps
- Michael Jordan
- Albert Einstein
Leonardo Da Vinci and J.F. Kennedy, not to mention the tenacious Thomas Edison and many more probably had / were ADHD. ADHD is not a disability in any sense. It allows people to be super-motivated and active, imaginative, self-starting and effective. Just think of the roll-call of high-achievers above. Notice how they are all men – most ADHD people are. Also remember how most of them did really badly at school and were told early in their lives that they would be failures forever.
“So if it’s a super-power,” I hear you cry, “why can’t I get my son to do his blessed homework?” Most likely because ADHD is hereditary, and it’s very difficult for you to be the tic-toc “everything in it’s proper place and at the right time” parent your child needs to check his homework status, make sure he does the homework, then make sure it’s in his bag when he goes to school. Your child is much more interested in the evolutions of Pokemon if he is pre-teens, or Yu-Gi-Oh! cards, or Play Station, or YouTube play-through channels, or, well, fill in the blank yourself.
What changed our lives was a version of this article:
which I urge you to read all of and to watch the video.
The original I read was on the wddy.com site but it has since been taken down now. Briefly, John Grey is the author of Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus. After retirement, he was diagnosed with Parkinson’s. Unable to accept this hideous death-sentence, he sought clinical treatment and, being ADHD, couldn’t rest until he had all the facts of the disease, and the facts of brain function, under his belt. Very generously, he shared the information with the group. Mad to try anything, I bought all of the ingredients on the detox supplements list, and, two months down the line, here are the results:
My son’s skin has cleared up, he tidies his room once a week unbidden, engages with others in his peer group, responds appropriately to other people’s emotions, can focus on tasks and take responsibility, and is, well, a much better, cleaned-up version of himself. It really is that simple. He doesn’t use all the supplements suggested by John Grey, but he does use these: (brand names in brackets)
- Trace Minerals Drops (TraceMinerals)
- Grape Seed Extract (21st Century)
- Omega 3-6-9 (Now)
- Micro Liposomal C (NutnCology)
- Vegan Miltivitamin (DEVA)
All of the above are vegan.
If you have / are ADHD, or someone you know or care for is, another suggestion is the Gut And Psychology Syndrome system, which a friend of mine has tried and says has been a life-saver for her and her autistic child.
Please leave your comments and carry on the discussion below.